Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Who am I bringing to class? (Draft 1)



                                                                          Summer  2014

Dear Class,

Sam Watson, a colleague of mine in the English department and a great teacher, once wrote, “A class is not something I teach.  It is something we make together.”  I think Sam is right about that.  If we don’t show up for class, then there’s no class.  But showing up is also more than being physically in our seats. In order to really make a class together we must bring who we are as well, our histories, our current incarnation, and our visions of who we want to become.   Before I can teach this class then, I need to know something about who you are as a person, a thinker, and a teacher; and you need to know something about me.  So I’m writing this letter to let you know something about me.  And after you read the letter I want you to write a letter back—just as full and thoughtful as you can make it—that tells me about you.

So who am I bringing to this class? 

Well, that’s not such an easy question to answer.  I grew up in the piedmont of South Carolina, in what was then a small town, Aiken.  Aiken is known for its “winter residents”—the rich folk who live in big mansions during the Christmas season, play polo on Sundays, and ride beautiful horses through Hitchcock Woods, a massive wooded park that sits in the middle of town.  The horses are the reason that even today Aiken has many dirt roads.  My family was part of the locals.  But because my Dad was the only obstetrician in the entire county, we were “known.”  Still today, I am introduced in Aiken as Doctor Borop’s daughter.  I can’t leave the grocery store without being shown pictures of everyone’s children and hearing the story of their births (some of which should not be repeated).  I didn’t experience my growing up as being privileged, though now I realize it was.  A few years ago, I went back to Aiken for my (don’t tell anybody) 30th high school reunion.  Out of 376 people, about 100 actually came.  One was my good friend Dawn, who knew or remembered almost everyone, while I could only remember a handful.  About half way through the evening, I asked Dawn how she knew so many classmates.  She answered, “Lil, don’t you remember?  I was in the low sections with most all of the students.  You were in the smart, college bound class.”  While I didn’t see myself then as “smart,” I realize now that my experience of school was very different than Dawn’s.    I knew I was going to college and I had my pick of all the schools I applied to.  Dawn barely could get into a community college program to become a licensed professional nurse. Her parents were reluctant to spend money on a girl going to college (after all, they would say, she is going to get married). I saw the world as open to me; Dawn married the guy she dated in high school who managed the local McDonald’s.

I went to Converse College to major in music.  I thought I wanted to be a concert pianist or bassoonist until I discovered what that meant.  I knew my sophomore year that I had developed a bad attitude about music.  It came to me during one of those 2 a.m. fire drills.  I noticed several of the women walking out with their cellos or clarinets.  I was hoping that my bassoon would burn up in the flames so I wouldn’t have to practice.  The next day I changed my major to English, not because I loved it, but because I had taken more English than anything else so I could finish the major and still graduate on time.  I had taken those English courses because I had this secret desire to become a poet.

I went to graduate school to escape boredom.  I had married this rich guy who had decided to go to graduate school to escape work. After spending a few months sitting around our one-bedroom apartment—you could vacuum the entire place without unplugging the machine—I realized the life of the socialite was not all it was cracked up to be, so I enrolled in school to have something to do.  I didn’t like it much, until I met Joe Murphy—the writer and poet.  He was the first professor who became my friend.  He was the first professor who gave me the confidence that I could write.

When my loser husband decided he needed to continue escaping work by seeking a Ph.D. in (of all things) marriage and family counseling, I decided to teach school.  I taught 8th, 11th, and 12th grade English and coached junior high and high school girls’ basketball in a small town, Class B, high school in Celeste, Texas (population 719).  The school was all that was left of the town, since the bank was robbed and pulled out.  There was one Mobil station and the Chat ‘N Chew—the local restaurant and gathering place.  The town lived basketball—Girls’ Basketball.  I was lucky—my year, we had the state championship basketball team—won the state by one point. I never worked harder in my entire life.  I also knew that I should quit while I was on top.  So I had to find a place to hide out from all those superintendents who were calling saying, “Ain’t you that coach up at CeeLess?  Well, we don’t need no English teacher at this school, but we sure do need a basketball coach.”

I had some real questions I knew needed answering.  How and why should children learn to write when their lives would remain on a small dirt farm near the Oklahoma border?  In other words, why does writing our stories matter?  I decided to go back to school to work on my doctorate in order to answer this question.  I went to Texas A&M, Commerce.  This time I had direction.  I wasn’t going to play school and just do time.  I was going to show up—be there—I was really going to learn something.  No more bull. No more being a nice girl.  No more being someone’s wife or daughter.   It was here that I discovered the subjects that I wanted to write about and the people who wanted to hear what I had to say.  It was here that I published my first poem and my first academic article.  It was here that I claimed my mind, my words, and my life.

I got my degree, left the creepy husband and went to UNC-Wilmington as an assistant professor to direct their writing program.  I would have stayed there forever except that one day it snowed.  It snowed 17inches in Wilmington and I was stuck for an entire day by myself.  I thought, “Lil, when you are old and gray and looking back on your life, do you want to say—‘I lived my entire life in Wilmington.’?”  Think about it a minute:  What writer do you know who spent her entire life living in Wilmington?   I wanted to be able to say that I lived in Paris and New York—so I set out to do just that: to have an adventure.

I lived in New York City in Greenwich Village for six years.  I taught at New York University directing their Writing Program.  I published two books.  I wrote furiously, mainly academic things.  New York does that to you.  You have to learn to live differently there.  No one has a car.  Space is small. You buy what you want to eat for supper at the local shop on your way home from work.  There is no Harris Teeter or Food Lion, no grocery cart or trunk to fill. You buy what you could carry in your hands walking home.   New York is a place where you have to think to live.  I guess that is why so many writers go there.

 I married again—a wonderful man—an English professor.  He got me out of “The City” to Albany, where I taught at SUNY-Albany for 12 years.  We created a lovely daughter and wrote two books together.  We came to Charlotte four years ago.  We wanted to leave the cold winters.  We wanted to come home.

I approach every semester full of excitement and of possibility.  I feel my year is beginning:  a new year of new people and new ideas.  I have to admit that I also feel a little apprehensive.  I wonder about how or if our class will become a community of learners.  I want my classes to be places that we all want to come to—where no one is doing time.  And my true hope is that this class may be the place where everyone claims their minds, their words, and their lives.


                                                                                Sincerely,



                                                                                Lil Brannon

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